The Importance of the First Meeting of two Lovers.
What a beautiful girl that is walking toward me. I need a line, something cute,
warm, friendly that shows I'm not a serial killer. Oh God, she's beautiful. Hmmm
wish I had a puppy with me. That would do it. Wish SHE had one. God, she's
coming closer. I've got it. I'll give her my umbrella. James Mc Arthur had the
world's greatest pick up line to his later wife, the actress, Helen Hayes. He leaned over
at a party, handed her a bowl of nuts and said "I wish these were emeralds."
Austrian writer/director Billy Wilder highly extolled the "MEET CUTE". He filled his movies with stunningly unique, romantic first time meetings between his hero and heroine. In the hysterical "ARISE MY LOVE", top NYC journalist Claudette Colbert meets Ray Milland in a Spanish prison when the jailer take her into the about-to-be-executed American pilot's dungeon cell so that she can do an interview on his heroic part in the war against Franco for her NY newspaper. She tells the Jailer she's his wife and wants a conjugal visit. Ray's taken aback. He has no wife. But Claudette comes in and embraces him and amazingly she springs him and they drive through serpentine mountain roads to an airfield, steal a plane and fly out with the entire SPANISH AIR FORCE shooting at them and they escape by going into a cloud.. See how that meeting sets the tone? Then, they go through all of WWII together and marry in the end. A Fabulous film.
In another Wilder film, the two lovers meet at Macy's pulling on the same pair of marked down pajamas, She grabs one half, he pulls the other. Neither can buy half a pajama so they do the scrimmage for which MACY's sales are famous. Later in the film, they're seen in the bedroom in those same pajamas, she in the top, he in the bottom. It was the forties so they were probably married.
My point is, --for a romance to start at a high point you need a sassy, great MEETING. Well, apropos of this, an astrology client came tonight for me to cast a horary of her meeting with the new fellow. She was 23, radiant, in love, he'd called her the next day. Where'd they meet? In a gas station. (THUD!)
The horary was great, grand water trines, but the place was not good enough. The problem is, her daily life isn't good enough. Her Daddy the Rich guy from Arabia has a mansion but she lives with Mom in a rental house with bad landscaping. She works downtown in the garment district in the rag trade. Not bad place for a meeting but there are no young men in that business. So she never meets men. She is not in a happening current.
A single girl is like a diamond which must be exhibited, shown off, set in solid platinum. You can't roll her out of a corn flake box and say 'sonny, this is a diamond, love her, marry her, pay for her children.' It just doesn't work like that. You have to set up a metaphysical context that at BEST has the boy knowing how great her parents and grandparents are, i.e. he's a member of her village. Other than that, there can be something that bespeaks the maiden's rare, much-to-be-cherished, feminine greatness, like she has a daycare, some very charismatic business that is womanly, or a charity thrift shop, or maybe she runs a city wide charity . Her being a total goddess must penetrate the man's thick skull and enter his brain and soul and spirit and heart, all at once. That's hard as a man's unconscious mind is like that of a GORILLA. Slow on the uptake. The gorilla views life in archetypal simplicity, the way you register setting and cast of characters in a dream. If your grandpa was once a big, famous activist, ran for mayor and got assasinated for leading a labor union, that's good stuff, if he knows your family and the family legend. That's my vote for best meet cute possible. If your father is a university professor, ... you can get a lot of mileage out of that one, too.
If say, this handsome hottie of a man meets the young lady at a posh wedding, 'mongst polite society, and she is fresh as a daisy, no date, well it encourages thoughts of awe, respect. She's like a bottle of fresh drinking water. Pure. The meeting energy pervades the union.
If he meets her on the street, at the newstand, there are unconscious overtones of women being on sidewalks that aren't wholesome. This simply doesn't work. Equally bad or worse is the parking lot outside a club or bar. Worst of all is the mellee of a meatmarket inside the club.
Now, if you're not two and twenty any more, if you're an older gal, there's auctions, Sothebys' & Christies and all the galleries you dig up going thru art mags at newstands.And there are big antique furniture houses that have auctions. Then, there's lectures, University extension, church meetings, and I love USED book stores as that's where the smart money goes. Yuppies go to BARNES & NOBLE. But hear this: if you really need to marry fast as you're heading for seventy, do the "FAST WAY TO A HUSBAND METHOD" that I have introduced to aging girls everywhere. It's EATING BREAKFAST OUT at every damn breakfast spot in your town, switching joints every 'good star morning.' (Free horoscope for 7 days a week is a great help). You want to go in there on a Jupiter or Venus morning and carry a really swift book, BIO of KISSINGER or ORGANIC FARMING FOR BEGINNERS. Depending on what kind of man you want to know. The men who you want to meet are alone, there is nobody making hashed browns chez lui. Much less pancakes, scrambled eggs, sausage bacon and black colombian coffee. The poor bozos are at the GREASY MEAL joint. BE THERE on all the jupiter or venus days. Reading your book, so he has an entree, I mean an entry point, we know he has an entree, already; he has hotcakes, eggs and sausages but now he can comment on that book. The title gives him entry.
So where can us younger girls meet men? At Adult High school classrooms, University extension, at lectures, maybe at an elegant department store. Men inside them are usually buying gifts for other women. Better is the healthfood store or in a pinch, the Posh Whole Foods market. Pushing a cart stacked with cute stuff is wholesome but it had better be healthy stuff. You have trays of brownies, any guy will walk away.
Now, who are you with? If you're with your best girlpal, mother, father, it kind of puts a squash on a man's flirting. If you're with your dog, it invites it. Actually HAVING a dog eradicates all chance of a love life. Dog is always left alone while you date and that makes you look cruel also you can't travel without worry about the damn dog, so no two weeks in Bermuda, Paris or Bali. But walking a dog accomplishes a better meet-cute so walking your friends' dogs on Venus or Jupiter nights does work for you to give you a glowing start. So choose lots of pals with dogs that live near you and bust' em out. When the man asks about the pooch, say "I do this dog walk thing for my girlfriend as she can only walk him once a day. I think Benjy should have ten walks a day. Wouldn't you go crazy if you couldn't get outta the house?"
That kind of mind in a pretty girl makes a light go off in a man's heart and pink rainbows float around his head. So I've constructed a scenario you might use. I've also explained why you'd want to incorporate extra dimensions into a first meeting.
One reason ..beyond instant respect and love is that it's important that adoration levels of LOVE accompany the first quivers of lust. A love shrink told our group that a man doesn't need to RESPECT a woman. She has to respect him but it doesn't work vice versa. A man must CHERISH a woman. I think the Love Doctor was right. When the man sees that you give Benjy all those walks, he's going to cherish you from word one.
So incorporate telling signs of your greatness into the first meeting. In a book store, you have selected some interesting titles. In the department store, you're posh, high maintenance, loaded with packages and your "show and tell" after you've been talking a while and he asks about all the loot, is cute. "This (holding it up half way,) is a knock off Armani suit, only 80$ --are you ready for that bargain? You probably don't know that shoes can go to 200$. Well Italian, best lasts, 39$ how do you spell bargain? " It's cute dialogue and he laughs and he cherishes you at the same time, and hey, it's a great first time meeting. Maybe almost as good as the pooch in the park.
Another possibility is a PARTY that your friends give. Statistically that is a standard meeting place. How to make it cuter? Eye contact between the two of you from all over the house and then you disappear and you're in another corner and more eye contact. Last time you make contact, hold up a drink. Better would be that he holds up two drinks. It's smart never to make a move on a man. He has to make all the moves. That of course is another theme, for another article.
You can think of other great meetings? What meetings have you had that worked because they were cute?
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