DOING GESTALT THERAPY AT HOME
With a cleansing Q&A
Now, this is the PERLS
method, but we can
try the JANOV
technique next...
In this increasingly
competitive, strife-torn, nervous-making world, romance and family life have a hard time flowering and
fruiting. The climate is so DARK down here now, the economy so ruthless… that
panic, fear, tension from just a single Television News hour will stress and
kill anything as tender, vulnerable and organic as an emotional life. Add to
that the toxic overgrowth that we inherited inside our hearts and minds, from
parents who had the same stresses
and you get a murky atmosphere where nothing fruits or flowers.
You want love and family life and you want to be clean, whole, relaxed, loving, clear
so that you can attract that primary relationship, right? Or maybe you want to
be so shiny bright that bosses, career matters go well. In either case, it
becomes paramount to clean up one’s HEART AND MIND. We are going to
give you the GESTALT Q & A that you and a pal can do, to run a clearing
process on you, one that heals, banishes scars. One which defuses all triggers.
Right now, you are a triggered being. Certain things hit your mind grid and you
explode into automatic and habitual modes of response. You may not even see it,
that’s how bad it is, but the darkness around YOU prevents love, career luck
from happening.
How can one possibly get a
therapist and run a ‘CLEARING’ process on ourselves for less than 200$ an
hour?The answer is, It can be done without a paid therapist! Yep, this isn’t
ROCKET science. FIND A CHUM and DO total emotional housecleaning FOR FREE!You
can in an hour, not only clear yourself and your friend but both of you learn
to make a living DOING GESTALT or at very least, get yourselves CLEARED of
inner turbulence, memories, that darkness, that sour climate that repels luck
and love.
With the help of a friend,
using the BUDDY SYSTEM, and the GESTALT clearing process, there is a way to
open up your hidden heart and pull out the vipers that have hidden there for so
many years. Make the demons that live in your heart and mind writhe in pain,
scream, and when by their screaming you locate them, YANK them out.Use famed
Dr. Fritz Perls Q&A sessions. Which this article describes in detail or use
TRANSACTIONAL
ANALYSIS, the textbook is online. Study it, Practice in a group, using
buddy system, pairing off to do Q&A.
People are hugely benefited by
the focused reverie of GESTALT and the ‘running of emotional processes.Patients
and Seekers can’t just lie on a couch and do mind trips while Sigmund asks
another dry-as-granola question. Along came Janov and Fritz Perls who showed us
that we “walking wounded” must cut the outer chest, open the heart, spill our
guts, go back right into the THROE of that long buried pain, weep it out all
over again and then, when the heart is clean, you close the little door and you
will be sunny for weeks on end. Cuz the boil within dried up.
You will find that Gestalt
Therapy gives you a LABELLED, mounted collection of the little vipers that
caused you problems, which (when you were full of sour power,) DROVE people
away from your door. If things didn’t work for you in love, know it has to do
with past angers, past scars. The label on this or that dead viper will read
‘resentment of Dad, Mom Sis. ’ Another now-labeled dead viper reads ‘I thought
I had been SCREWED OVER, abandoned. My parent really was a zombie with me so I
look for zombies.’ And so on. My husband was a zombie. This person was
unfeeling. Or…maybe in relationship to your own children, YOU are the zombie.
Whatever the stripe of sour
power, if you open the heart with the knife of Gestalt, you’ll find it and yank
it out. That is what this work does, it digs in the heart. Dr. FREDERICK PERLS
pioneered THIS GESTALT THERAPY WORK. The PERLS group left almost nothing
written except one book “GESTALT THERAPY” by FREDRICK PERLS that is a buck at ABE BOOKS USED . BUY ONE.Most GESTALT therapists charge an arm and a leg, few
wrote books, but read the HISTORY OF GESTALT at very end, and you can find
other authors, listed there, their titles. ABE BOOKS, ab uck a book used,
that’s the way to go.
AND of course TEACHERS at
colleges (and their students) are mainly what’s left ofthe living lineage. THEY
do not leave many tracks. But I was hired as typist for a student of a PERLS
STUDENT and I KEPT her HOMEWORK! Worse, I understood it! WORST OF ALL I am
publishing it here!
OK. let’s get down to work.
Make another copy of this article. No colors, Black on White. Erase the
preamble words upat top, ^ and just print out the QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS BELOW
–V- in large print so your BUDDY can read the questions off to you and do the
cleansing Q&A right away! (PS. It works better without mind stimulants. Try
no coffee, so your body is low key. )
HOW TO ASK QUESTIONS OF A BLOCKED PERSON AND GET THE BLOCKAGE OUT.
A SAMPLE
‘RUN’ is given below. Mind you, this takes TWO PEOPLE. Someone has to
read off the questions while the other person is in a reverie, focusing on
feelings, very relaxed, ready to scream, weep or rage if taken to this depth by
the question.
TRACKING-QUESTION
FOR FACILITATING THE OWNING AND ACCEPTING OF PROJECTIONS
(which occur when you blame another for damage to you)
1.
Let's work on the PHYSICAL LEVEL first: Tell me, with that person damaged you?
WHAT HAPPENED? WHAT WAS THE TRIGGERING EVENT? We are going to attempt to be
specific. To get specific memories. When we finish with this event, we may
study another event or person but always with this specificity, if possible.
Example:
In my relationship and communication with my father, I feel he is sometimes
insensitive to my needs and does not cherish me as would like him to.
2.
Let's move to the EMOTIONAL LEVEL: HOW DO you FEEL about what happened?
WHAT IS your REACTION to this event?
3. MENTAL
LEVEL: WHAT ARE your THOUGHTS ABOUT THIS SITUATION? ARE ANY IRRATIONAL
BELIEFS PRESENT? MAKING ANY JUDGEMENTS AND IF SO, WHAT ARE THEY?
4.
SELF LEVEL: ARE YOU IN THE LOVING (unconditional loving, peace and joy) MODE?
No, I
am not feeling the peace, love and joy I would like to feel in this
relationship.
5.
WHAT ARE MY CHOICES?
I can
continue to blame him for not being who I want and believe he should be in my
life and hold onto my anger and hurt. Or, I can choose to heal myself by
working my process and choosing to let go of my anger and hurt by taking
responsibility for it, and also through forgiveness of my judgements.
6.
AM I WILLING TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND IF SO, WHAT IS MY INTENTION?
Yes,
I want to understand what my father's behavior is mirroring back to me so the
hurt can be healed. My intention is to heal so I can have more freedom inside
myself and not stay stuck in this pattern. My intention is to also be in touch
with the deep source of love inside myself that unconditionally loves myself
and my father.
7.WHAT
IS IT I FIND THE MOST OBJECTIONABLE ABOUT THIS PERSON OR SITUATION?
I
dislike that he is not demonstrating the love and cherishing that I feel I
deserve and he should be giving me this in this relationship.
8.
WHAT IS MY MIRROR REFLECTING TO ME ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MYSELF, (with me
inside of me)?
It is
reflecting to me that I ignore myself and don't show appropriate action of love
and cherishing towards myself. I disregard myself time and time again. I put
myself last and fail to take care of my own needs.
9.
AM I WILLING TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY, ACCEPT THIS PATTERN WITHIN MYSELF AND NOT
MAKE MYSELF WRONG FOR HAVING IT?
(Remember, acceptance does not mean resignation.)
I am
willing to take responsibily for this pattern and not judge myself as 'bad' for
having it. I accept myself for having 'had' this pattern and am now willing to
go deep within myself to give myself the love and support I have been wanting
for so long.
10.
AM I WILLING TO MOVE INTO COMPASSIONATE SELF- FORGIVENESS? (You may want to place your hand on your heart to
assist you in connecting with your own compassion.) I forgive myself for
judging myself as....etc.
Yes,
I am willing to offer myself this gift of compassion. I forgive myself for
judging myself as unworthy of love. I forgive myself for judging myself as
insensitive to my real needs. I forgive myself for judging my father as unkind
for not loving, cherishing, protecting and understanding me.
11
ARE THERE ANY OTHER JUDGMENTS FOR WHICH I'D LIKE TO FORGIVE MYSELF AT THIS TIME? I forgive myself for judging myself as....
I
forgive myself for judging myself as a bad person for feeling angry toward my
father. I forgive myself for judging myself as unkind toward myself. I forgive
myself for judging myself as stupid for having this pattern so long.
12.WHAT'S
PRESENT NOW?
Now,
I am wanting to be very present in my loving and let go of the past and let go
of judgement in my relationships, release people to love and give as God wants
them to and for me to feel kindness toward all, including me.
13.
ARE THERE ANY IRRATIONAL BELIEFS I'D LIKE TO IDENTIFY AND UPDATE?
Yes,
the belief that my father must behave in a certain way to mean that he really
loves me. Also that I am incapable of fully loving myself, that I need love
from the outside. My father may really love me even though his actions don't
show it the way I'd like them to. Also, I am worthy no matter who loves or
doesn't love me and I am capable of loving myself within myself as my essence
and spirit are pure love.
14.
WOULD I LIKE TO ACKNOWLEDGE AND APPRECIATE MYSELF?
Yes,
I appreciate myself for doing the work of going deep within to heal old
patterns. I appreciate my sincerity and compassion in working this process.
15.HOW
CAN I APPLY THIS LEARNING IN MY RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS PERSON? I am going to let go of my expectations in this
relationship, however affirm what I would like and release it to God. I am also
going to move into a more loving cherishing, protecting, understanding
relationship with myself because I really want this.
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You will
find a SECOND ARTICLE ON GESTALT, RUNNING PROCESSES, by clicking HERE. This is the
GESTALT SELF QUESTION Q&A SEQUENCE.
You will
find/ click on a great article on HISTORY OF GESTALT.
USEFUL as there are other authors, books you can google, find at abebooks.com
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